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You know your haircut is bad when you would happily take your front fringe back…

So on Tuesday I decided that I really really wanted to cut my hair, and soon. On Thursday I actually did it, and now I cannot look in a mirror without feeling the need to curl up into a ball and sob.

Right now i’m in this really confused state between feeling crap about how I look and feeling crap about feeling crap about how I look… Let me explain…

I’ve never felt so superficially concerned before… ever, and now that I’ve cut my hair and I have an unwanted bob (yes, I said bloody freaking bob) I just can’t deal. Picture this, you take a girl with really curly hair, you cut her hair really short, and you hope for the best. Everyone knows that when you cut curly hair, the curls bounce and the hair seems shorter than it does when it’s straight. Not only is my hair ridiculously short when it is straight but can you imagine how short it’s going to seem when it’s curly?! I am going to look like Shirley Temple and the thought is driving me insane.

Not only that, but last night I went to my cousin’s 21st birthday party and it started to rain, but that wasn’t a problem, the humidity was. My hair has never reacted to humidity. It has always been just long enough to weigh my hair down and stop it from going curly, but not this time. I went outside and within 10 minutes my hair had begun to curl and frizz out! Tying my hair up wasn’t an option because there isn’t enough hair to tie up and there is actually nothing I could do to fix it.

I think what’s really pissing me off right now is that there were quite a few ‘signs’ that I should have listened to, telling me not to cut my hair. I know, I’ve taken it so seriously that I’m reading ‘signs’ from the universe. Firstly, I wore my hair naturally curly since monday and every day, after every wash, it looked great, something that doesn’t normally happen. Secondly, my dad freaked out when I showed him a picture of how I wanted it cut, and for the first time, I couldn’t convince him to like it. Finally, an appointment that was scheduled before my hairdresser appointment ran really behind, and so I called the hairdresser and was about to cancel when the receptionist said “that’s okay, we can just swap your appointment with a later client”. I really, really should have just cancelled.

It’s not that the hairdresser did a bad job as such… The cut was done well in the sense that everything is straight and I didn’t come home with a rat’s tail, but I just feel like maybe if they… the professional person who works with hair on a daily basis, took into consideration the fact that this outcome was inevitable, I would have been able to avoid this whole situation because they would tell me straight out that there’s a possibility that it would look horrible. I ended up feeling really guilty too because my hairdresser said “I think it really suits you” (they lied, by the way) and I replied “really? you reckon?” in a very unsubtle, unstable, ‘I’m about to cry’ type of tone. I tried to redeem my response by saying “I probably just have to get used to it, I’ve never had my hair this short before… it’s, uhh, exciting…!”

I can’t even explain this hair style to you, and no way in hell am I uploading pictures of it! it literally seems like I got a bowl cut and clipped extensions over the top of it… I don’t know how that makes sense but it was the best way I could describe it to you. So now leaving the house without a full face of makeup isn’t even an option, and neither is my trusty top knot that would get me out of a bad hair day every time.

I actually do not know what to do or how to fix it. It’s extremely demotivating and it has pulled my confidence down a lot. I really don’t like feeling like this because I hate the idea of being self conscious because of something superficial, but I can’t shake it off. I really, truly and completely do not want to start uni so soon because my hair is just not on point. When I went to an enrolment day, I was so excited because my hair looked awesome, I had a really cool, chic but casual outfit on, and my life seemed so picturesque. Now I am absolutely dreading this because I’m going to be “that girl with the short hair with no style.”  More than that though, it’s the fact that I had something good and I didn’t realise it until it was gone.

I know, I seem so incredibly shallow, and trust me, out of all people I know that there are worse things in life, but I just wanted to point out how something cosmetic can change your self perception. I always wondered why people would opt for surgery and treatments because they weren’t happy with how they looked, but now I completely understand it. To feel good, sometimes you need to be content with how you look, and I know it sounds ridiculously superficial, but I never thought it was true until now.

Sorry for the rant, but I started writing this at 3:45am because I couldn’t sleep because I was thinking about how devastated I am about my haircut. I would actually do anything to go back in time and reverse this. I would even throw it way back to late 2013/early 2014 when I got a front fringe… and I thought that was bad.

Kim Kardashian didn’t ‘Break the Internet’… that was you.

May I be the first to say “congratulations” to the people who are criticising Kim Kardashian?

Why? because you are giving her exactly what she wants. Ha ha.

Almost two weeks following the release of her photo shoot for Paper magazine and people are still talking about the “controversy” that an attempt at breaking the internet has caused…

News about a naked Kim Kardashian isn’t actually news and i’m not sure why everyone is so shocked…? Fair enough the photos weren’t exactly tasteful, but i’m sure if you were a model who usually gets paid (a lot more than some get paid in a year for one shoot) you probably wouldn’t shy away from the camera (or say “no thanks” to the fame that would follow) Plus, would you like it if someone scorned at a creative decision that you made? Have you ever been proud of something that you have created, and rather than receiving recognition, you just get judged for it? If its something that Kim wanted to do, and got the chance to do it, kudos to her! Kim didn’t get one cent for that shoot, and all she did was take up the opportunity to recreate an iconic shoot with the same photographer, Jean-Paul Goude.

I think what is really bothering me about this is that everyone was okay with Nicki Minaj’s Anaconda song and music video, which I felt was more uncomfortable to watch than these photos are to look at (especially that part with Drake at the end) Why? because now that ‘Anaconda‘ is out, you have a reason to twerk again.

Now, I think everyone knows how much I love ‘Game of Thrones‘, so you would also know that in no way am I slamming the nature of the show, but no one says anything about the graphic content in ‘Game of Thrones‘, which at times is ridiculously overrated, and finally, women all over the world worshipped Sex and the City and yet, one photo of one woman who is a lot wealthier than most is fuelling everyone, and i think it’s because of jealousy. Not many people have the confidence to do something like that and granted, it wasn’t something that simply had to be done, but most people forget that Kim K is a model, and she has made a career out of professional photography (regardless of the scandals and such…) She never asked to be a role model, nor did she ever promote herself as such. I don’t see the problem with these photos, especially when there are people out there doing far worse, and no one voices their opinions on those people, so why must you say something about Kim? She isn’t hurting anyone, nor is she showing the world something that they haven’t seen before.

Not everything has sexual connotations, and the fact that a woman’s body is immediately thought of in such a way is disgusting. The human body is a beautiful creation which sustains and creates life. The human body is one of the most natural organisms on the planet, so why are people, specifically women, forced to hide their body to suppress ‘temptations’? This is even a case of gender inequality. Ask yourselves “how can the sexes be equal when censorship of their bodies is not?” Why was it okay for Nick Jonas to grab his junk to prove that he’s mature and not a Disney kid in his most recent photo shoot, and why was it praised when Channing Tatum, Matthew McConauhey, and Alex Pettyfer portrayed male strippers in ‘Magic Mike‘, but Kim Kardashian is condemned for a photo shoot? Is it because she is a woman and there are certain expectations of her? Why does anyone give themselves the right to place expectations on someone they don’t even personally know? Could you imagine if the film ‘Magic Mike‘ was in fact ‘Magic Michelle‘? It would have received a ridiculous amount of criticism and the film classifications of the movie would have jumped from M to MA15+ really damn quickly. Why can teen magazines (that reach target audience’s of 10-18 years of age) publish photos of male heartthrobs sans shirt, but Kim Kardashian can’t do one magazine spread with little to no clothing? She isn’t posing provocatively like said male heartthrobs are, but is simply recreating an iconic photograph.

There is a campaign that I feel quite strong about, especially following the controversy behind Kim’s shoot, and it’s called “Free the Nipple” This campaign (if you haven’t heard about it before) is a movement aimed to empower women and promote equality, allowing and encouraging the natural occurrence of breast feeding in public (which is illegal in most states universally) and further, aims to balance the system of censorship which allows ridiculous amounts of graphic violence, while going to extreme lengths to cover a nipple.

If your trouble with not only the “Free the Nipple” campaign, but also Kim Kardashian’s Break the Internet shoot is the exposure of these things to young children, then take your phones and iPads off of your kids, enforce internet restrictions and read them a real, hard copy nursery rhyme book, and teach them something that is actually worth their while, like reading or counting, rather than giving them a game or internet access to shut them up so that you can go about your lives on social media, criticising people you don’t know publicly, while neglecting what’s really important. If you do your job right as a parent, exposure to children wouldn’t be a problem, because they wouldn’t have a mean of finding this sort of content anyway. If you can justify dressing your children up as the characters from ‘Breaking Bad‘ for halloween, complete with props resembling bongs and Wizz Fizz in packets that intend to look like narcotics, then you are then encouraging a behaviour far more atrocious than being proud of your body (which is what Kim Kardashian‘s intention was).

What’s worse: Encouraging drugs as if they are fun and harmless, or seeing a naked body? You decide.

Once again, another round of applause for everyone talking about this, and a standing ovation for those who believed that they have a right to criticise Kim Kardashian‘s parenting. In 20 years time North West will know that her mum helped her pay for her fifth mansion that she bought in cash and paid in full at the age of 12.

#freethenipple #breaktheinternet #getoverit 

“Imitation is the highest form of flattery”

We all know that when it comes to fashion, designers all over the world draw inspiration from each other, further exposing amazing pieces of clothing, jewellery and accessories to the fashion moguls of the world. Although some pieces are dramatically changed and adapted into the iconic signatures of each designer and fashion house, some stay very true to their original concept and design. This type of imitation within the fashion industry is completely acceptable is recognised as a smart marketing scheme, making high statement fashion pieces affordable for all different types of people.

Imitation within the fashion industry is absolutely adequate. However, there are many times where copying is not reasonable, making imitation not only annoying but extremely generic and potentially destructive to trends and style. To gain inspiration from someone’s outfit is fine. To completely take their whole look and use it as your own, is not.

At the moment, this form of imitation has been causing me much distress (this is not an overreaction) only for the reason that you cannot go out without looking the same as everyone else. My favourite quote, which is clearly stated at the top of my blog is “People shouldn’t succumb to trend, they should interpret trend”. To put it simply, just because an accessory, type of jacket, pant or shoe is popular or “in style” it doesn’t mean that you should go out of your way to have it. Fashion is all about standing out and expressing who you are through your outfit. It is a way to express your passions, your emotions and your personal outlook on things without having to say a word. Take a printed top as an example; Is the top printed with the name and logo of your favourite band? Or have you bought a Nirvana t-shirt without knowing who Kurt Cobain is? Are you wearing the same pair of jeans as the three other girls (or boys) standing in front of you in the line to the counter while purchasing the leather sleeved cardigan that every Cara, Miranda and Poppy are wearing?

Naturally, I shouldn’t be the person making decisions for you, and if you love those jeans, who am I to stop you from purchasing them? The point is, do not buy them just because everyone else has them. Imitating someone’s style is almost as bad as cutting and pasting your essay and trying to pass it off as your own. Not only is it tacky, but it is also annoying for the people who genuinely love that item of clothing or accessory!

I do not know if it is just me, but I like to go out wearing my favourite outfit, knowing that I put it together and that I was able to choose every piece that I am wearing in order to create the look that I am going for. Individuality is key to making fashion work for you, and succumbing to trend is the perfect way to hide who you are and your singularity.