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Three ways travelling can ruin you

Exploring the world is an incredible experience, just keep in mind that no one talks about the ways in which becoming a traveller can ruin you. (Although I may be exaggerating a little bit)

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Thanks for a fab year, 2015

Where do I even begin to describe 2015?

2015 was the year that I met amazing people and made friends I know will be around for a long time.

2015 was the year that I worked my ass off and reached my goals.

2015 was the year that I got a taste of the real world and thrived from it.

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UPDATE: I’m back!

Hey everyone!

I am so, so sorry I haven’t posted in so long. My life has been ridiculously crazy lately. I have been working heaps and then when I do get a day off it’s the only time I have to catch up with family, friends, and run errands.

I do admit, I was beginning to get really, really frustrated with how everything was panning out, especially considering that I didn’t have time to write about all of the things that have been happening recently. Then, when I did have time, I was too tired to properly write and edit things in time to post them.

To be completely honest though, at the moment I feel like it’s in my best interest to work every day that I can, because that way I can achieve my goals a lot quicker. Sometimes you have to sacrifice something in order to get something else. At the moment, my main goal is a Euro trip.

As exciting as it is, it’s also extremely stressful because I have a lot of saving left to do, and therefore, need to work my butt off to get to where I want to be, which is cruising through Europe without a worry in the world.

With that being said, though, I am slowly but surely getting back into the blogging mentality, which I don’t think I completely lost, I just needed a break somewhere in my life, and as much as I love blogging, it was probably the easiest thing to take a break from; but never fear, because I am back and I have so much stuff to post that you’ll probably end up getting sick of me!

If I lived in London…

It’s no secret that if I found a briefcase with at least $15,000, the first thing I would do is go to the airport with an empty suitcase and move to London.

It’s okay, I’m not being completely unrealistic, I have family there and accommodation can be organised so it’s not a stupid idea, I assure you.

Lately, the wanderlust has been real and every time I shop, a motto runs through my head: “This would look awesome in London”.

With that being said, my “If I lived in London” shopping wishlist continues to grow every time I open a new internet tab.

PS: Don’t try to tell me that these items of clothing aren’t as cool as I think they are. I won’t listen.

I also have devised a list of 10 legitimate reasons why I should go to London.

1. I miss my family who live there.

2. I like cold weather.

3. I can experiment with fashion with desirable results.

4. I speak English.

5. British Pound Sterling. Have you seen how low the cost of living is there compared to Australia? (let’s forget about the crap exchange rates) MAC lipsticks are £16 compared to $36 AUD.

5. There are endless paid internships available in the fashion industry (I know this because I follow @fashionworkie on Twitter)

6. I love Shakespeare.

7. I’m studying probably the most versatile degree ever, London offers plenty of courses that co-inside with my degree (I have also looked into this with great detail)

8. I like British bands

9. I’m happy with the monarchal government (and it’s future leaders)

10. I can do the best British accent ever.

PS: This is all hypothetical, Mum…

2014: Nothing but a stepping stone to harsh realisation

“Yo, 2014, I’m really happy for you, I’ma let you finish, but 2013 was one of the best years of all time!”

2013: Probably my favourite year of my life. Why? I was 16, abundantly confident in myself and my abilities, I went overseas, I was incredibly happy, and I had my whole life plan sorted, everything, from where I would go to university, and what I would do there, to having any resource I needed at my fingertips. I had the confidence to forget about my problems and I had the motivation to succeed, and nothing could stop me. I had made incredible friends and had strengthened the relationships with the friends I already had. I also found my passion: blogging.

2014 arrives and i’m still blogging. I turned 17 on the 6th of January, and celebrated with the people who meant the world to me. A very modest gathering, but nonetheless extremely reassuring and fulfilling. I started my final school year with goals and motivation, and tackled every task at hand with ease. Then, for an unknown reason, “tackling school with ease” became difficult. My stress levels were going through the roof and I noticed that it was having an extreme toll on my body and my mind. The only thing that could clear my mind was blogging. In March, my mum had an operation that wasn’t very serious, but obviously crucial to her health. This was fine and everything went well, but thats when I experienced my first panic attack. It was ruthless and made me feel like I had no control. I then realised that I had a crazy, annoying, and irrational fear of hospitals that needed attention. This episode scared me, because thats when I realised that I could very easily lose control of my emotions; something that had never happened before. In April one of my closest friends (who I had made in 2013) came to Australia and it was so lovely to feel that 2013 feeling again, and it brought me back down to Earth, which was something I really needed.

Then, just as I thought I was getting the hang of the whole “controlling your emotions so that they don’t control you” thing, I received news that really, really affected me. My Dad was diagnosed with cancer. It was a very low-grade cancer and we really should have been thankful that it wasn’t as bad as other cases, but still, the C-word is a very confronting concept to deal with. Meanwhile at school, the work was getting tougher and the competition was well and truly on. Academically, I wasn’t doing too bad, I was doing very well in tough subjects (hi History Revolutions) and I had acted in, designed and sourced costumes for, as well as contribute to putting together a production of “The Venetian Twins” with my theatre class. It was a really rewarding and exciting thing to be apart of, and it distracted me for quite some time. Still though, at the back of my mind, I was always worried about what might come next; could things dramatically change? Was I prepared for that to happen? The answers to those questions are yes and no. Yes, circumstances can change in an instant, and no, in the event that they did, I was definitely not prepared, not emotionally and not mentally.

Ask any year 12 student and they can tell you how difficult they found the year to be. Not only are classes full on and demand every second of your attention, but recess and lunch breaks were also becoming hard work. I don’t think I have spoken to anyone who finished year 12 last year who didn’t encounter trouble within their friendship groups, and I was definitely absorbed into a ridiculous mess. Decisions that I wasn’t prepared for needed to be made, and fires were ignited with a small drop of fuel. A serious domino effect happened and one problem followed another, no matter how hard I had tried to contain it. For a while I endured the tiring task of “staying in the middle” and “keeping the peace” which was an absolute waste of time. After a while I learned that you cannot make everyone happy, no matter how hard you try. You can try to stay out of a problem but expectations are placed upon you and making decisions becomes inevitable. Although it may seem like it, I do not regret one decision that I made, and for every person that I lost, I regained a sense of myself.

One thing that I realised was that I would rather have three incredible people around me, people who inspire and motivate me, people who encourage me to be a better person; rather than one hundred people who I have to pretend with. Saying goodbye to someone who you once had a history with is difficult, but ceasing communication with them without closure is a lot harder. It’s not because I wanted to go out with a bang, or have my two cents, but I feel like there were things that needed to be said, which that person will never know. Not once have I stopped respecting them, however, i’ve noticed that this lack of closure has made them stop respecting me. One of the most annoying situations you can be put in is trying to have a group conversation, when one person just ignores you completely. Another annoying situation is hearing that the same person is willing to talk about you to your best friend. Even worse than that is hearing from multiple people that this one person has made you seem like the wicked witch of the west. Sometimes, trying to avoid trouble can backfire, and even though you try your hardest to build an environment for yourself where you can prosper, it’s not enough.

Then, after going through all that because you genuinely feel that you can no longer fake a friendship, people who you really care about begin to question your genuineness. The most ridiculous thing I experienced in 2014 was that I desperately tried to peacefully resolve things, but no one else did. I lost people that I didn’t want to lose. I have never been so disappointed in how things turned out. Regardless, I let everything slide because I just didn’t have the energy to fight for things anymore. My priorities had changed, and I preferred to focus my energy on my family, and didn’t bother justifying anything to anyone else. If there’s one thing about me that hasn’t ever changed in my entire life, it’s that my family is and always will be my number one priority, and anyone that can’t understand that doesn’t have a place in my life.

I told one person outside of my family that my Dad has cancer because I believed that no one has a right to place a justification on my motives. More than that, though, was that I didn’t want any sympathy from anyone, and the last thing I wanted was people to feel obligated to continue a friendship with me because they felt bad. I don’t regret not telling anyone, and I also don’t regret my actions, because now I see who is really there for me regardless. I didn’t know how easy it was for people to just forget about other people, but i’m glad that I know. I am, and will continue to be a very sentimental person; if I consider you to be one of my friends, my expectation is that we will be friends for life. I’m willing to go the distance, and i’m glad that I can see who else is too.

I’ve learned so much from 2014, and as difficult as it was, and as much as I hated it, I needed the kick in the ass. I needed to be shocked out of the dream that was 2013. I needed to learn that if you want to be happy, you need to make your own happiness, and drive your life. You can’t depend on anyone to make you content, it’s all up to you. You need to take initiative to surround yourself with the people who are going to help you bloom, and with people who you can in-turn support as well. I will not say that any of this was worth it, because I really hated going through all of it, but I do appreciate what i’ve learned.

I’ve devised my own list of commandments, and I want to share them with you. You, my lovely readers, have been with me through it all, supporting The Fashion Journals in every way that you can. My following has increased by an overwhelming amount in 2014, and I’m so grateful for each and every person who is subscribed, so thank you! 

1. Thou shall prioritise their own wellbeing, and make decisions that will make you a better person.

2. Make sure that thou won’t regret any decisions that thou makes. Ensure that it’s a life goal, that you will have the ability to reflect on your life and be proud of the decisions you made.

3. Find closure. Whether its with relationships, a bad test score, or a mistake you think you will never let down. Remember that you will never feel at peace with it until you talk it through, or at least establish an understanding between yourself and who ever else involved.

4. Appreciate everything and everyone you have around you. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and a large majority of that time it’s so that you can learn. Make the most of those fun summer nights, make the most of times with your friends, and cherish the quality time with your family, and be grateful that you’ve had a chance at life. Things can change in an instant, and the last thing you want is to look back and shudder at the thought of a missed opportunity.

5. The most cliché of them all: Learn from your past, and ensure that you are well equipped to handle things that may arise in your future.  I know, it’s a lot easier said than done, but why would you go down the same way twice if you realised the first time it was the wrong road to take?

So my list of commandments is half the size of original one, but I think this covers some things that stray from basic human rights and laws.

So, now it’s 2015, welcome to the new year, everyone!  I hope that you can begin the new year prepared for, and welcoming changes. I hope that you can learn from me and understand that life can be difficult, but once you hit what you think is rock bottom, there is no where to go but up! That’s my plan for the new year: to make 2015 better in every way than 2014 was! To find a strength in a weakness, and to persevere a negative to make it a positive!

Now, I have just turned 18 years old, I have finished school, and feel a lot wiser than I did in 2014 (and age has nothing to do with it!) I don’t have my whole life planned out, and I don’t know where I’m going to go to university, or what i’m going to study. At times I feel really overwhelmed and I can’t pin point why, but one thing is for sure, and that is that the same confidence I had in 2013 is still with me, and I know that one way or another, 2015 will be good to me. How? you may ask. I’m going to make it good, no matter what.

Happy 2015! Sorry to overwhelm you with a massive 1800+ worded article!!! Congratulations on getting through it!

xx DS

Here are some words of wisdom…

Right now, i’m at a stage where things are coming to an end and it’s expected that I sort out my life, like, right now.

Like most would know and understand, that is a concept that is most definitely easier said than done. I’m finding myself at the age of 17 being forced to make massive decisions which should determine the next 100 years of my life (give or take…) Of course, i’m not alone on this road, there is a whole cohort of year 12 students across Australia (and across the world) who are overly stressed about their pathways and feel like every move they make now is crucial to their future. This is definitely true, yes, performing well on your VCE exams are certainly important, there is absolutely no doubt about it, and striving for that 99.99 ATAR is a great dream to have, congratulations on the amount of ambition that you have, regardless of whether it’s realistic or not.

During these times, it’s important to remember what your ambitions are, and how this short term goal is going to effect your future in the long term. I personally am a dreamer, I like to think that everything is possible, because, why shouldn’t I, and why can’t you?

We are so pressured into believing that the only way to succeed is from being the best right from the beginning, but what people don’t realise is that most of the time, the CEO was the person who was doing coffee runs 15 years ago, and modestly made a name for themselves.

My aim for writing this is to motivate. No matter what circumstances you may be in, you can always achieve your goals, and whether it takes 6 months or a whole lifetime, if you keep persevering and keep optimistic, you will achieve, and the only thing slowing you down right now is your mentality, and although your mentality is something that cannot be easily changed, it can be persuaded.

Realistically, there is no one to blame but yourself for not achieving your goals, and it’s up to you, and you only, to move your butt and strive for them, keeping in mind the amazing, accomplished feeling you will get once you reach the finish line.

In the event that you do fail at the task at hand, whose to say that it wasn’t for the best? If you fail miserably trying, then that’s fantastic, because once you get it (it being a job, career, interview, anything) then that means that you already know what not to do. Don’t think of it as a failure, think of it as a learning process, think of it as being on a roller coaster that only goes up (Thank you Augustus Waters)

One thing you should remember though, is that your failures don’t define you, but they do shape you. Naturally, we learn from our mistakes, and that’s a beautiful thing! Once you learn not to touch the flame, you have no good reason to do it again, therefore, once you give it another go, you will only get better.

The way I see it is that you have one shot at life, and of course, life has many opportunities, so in that case don’t just reach for something thats in arms length, reach for the stars. You may have an incredible amount of things that are in your way, but those things aren’t physically or mentally stopping you, they’re just slowing you down, like a speed hump in the road.

Your journey is just one big metaphorical road, with many speed humps, side streets and pot holes, but if you’ve got a steady vehicle, it will be a smooth course.

I don’t know about you, but when i’m of a retirement age, i’d prefer to be deciding on which Céline handbag I will wear to match the colour of my brand new Ferrari (okay, maybe not a ferrari… I’ll settle for a Maserati… ;)) rather than sit on a couch regretting my past and not doing anything about my future. Rather than looking back, regretting that you didn’t take opportunities while they were there, create your own. Don’t rely on other people to hand things to you, if you want it, you have to work for it, and if it’s something you want bad enough, nothing and no one can or will get in your way.

My Dad always told me that “there is no one who is better than you, but there is also no one who is beneath you” which, when broken down, can be interpreted in many ways. The way I like to look at it is like this: You can compare yourself to people, and beat yourself up for not being like them, but you can’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle; But above all that, it’s also a quote of modesty. There literally is no one who is better than you are, but in turn, you are also no better than anyone else. Everyone is capable of great things, and not only is it a matter of time until they un-tap their potential, but it’s also a matter of them achieving the same as you, but in a different way. Rather than feeling threatened, feel encouraged, feel empowered, because if the person who you look up to can do it, then so can you.

Now, i’d like to apologise for speaking in metaphor, analogy, and simile a good 85% of the time, but then again, this would be pretty boring without out it so you’re welcome (that’s sarcasm, which is a form of irony. Hi language techniques) 

At the end of the day, life is one big chance, and your decision to get up every morning, is you taking that chance every day, and opening yourself to the amazing things that this life has to offer.

Preaching a sense of selfishness: Making your lifestyle, worthwhile

A lot of thought has gone into writing this, I contemplated finishing the piece and not posting it, but I also contemplated that as much relief as I felt while writing it, may be just the same amount of relief that you might get from reading it. I’m taking this blog to a new place, starting with lifestyle, and this is something that has become very important to me, and as fashion, beauty and writing is a big part of my life, so are these concerns and so are the results of these concerns… Lets call them “revelations”.

Lately I don’t even know where to begin when it comes to, well, pretty much anything. I’m constantly busy, stressed and focusing all of my attention of things that aren’t particularly my cup of tea. I think it’s come to that time of the year when everything becomes serious (or people are finally realising that the first four months of the year could’ve been passed in a more productive way…) Regardless, everywhere I go, people are stressed.

Granted I am a year 12 student so the majority if people that I speak to are already stressing for exams, worrying about why and where they missed out on that 1% on their tests, or if you’re in my case your theatre production should be ready to perform this week and you feel completely unorganised, and, finally, our social lives are kind of hanging on by a thread.

Everyone becomes sensitive and snappy, friendships fall apart and new ones form, and sometimes you have to deal with things that are larger than you think you can cope with. If you’re like me, you begin to prioritise and you realise that this is the time in your life when sometimes you have to put yourself, your needs, and your aspirations first. So, that’s where some new philosophies, different outlooks and a welcoming mindset come in.

Sometimes, we forget what’s really important, and it takes something serious and emotionally hard to face for you to realise what it is that you’re missing. Sometimes that push we need is a push off of the edge, because once you reach the bottom, there’s no other way to go except up.

I know, it’s totally cliche, but it’s so true. In a time where you feel lost, you begin to imagine what it is that will help you to find yourself; you truly understand what’s missing, and what steps need to be taken to replace that empty feeling.

 I’m not going to take a materialistic approach and turn this around into a post about how “money can make you happy” or about how “I really needed that bag in my life” because what i’ve realised is that when you have everything emotionally, you long for material things, because we can’t help but want more. Once you experience something that may not leave you in the best place, our desire for everything else becomes overwhelming, and some manage to find happiness in inanimate objects. Those lifeless concepts that we think bring us happiness work until you need advice and have nothing to turn to except a Celiné bag and five pairs of Louboutins.

As a self-confessed materialistic person, you can quote me on the words “money doesn’t buy happiness, but i’d rather cry in my Ferrari” but here I am encouraging selfishness of a certain sort. The sort of putting your emotional needs first, and making yourself happy by what ever means possible. If that means cutting ties with people who make you unhappy, then do it. If that means sacrificing duties imposed by others so that you have the time to do something for yourself, then just do it. If it means selflessly donating your time to charity and walking away knowing that you’ve done something good, go for it. Stop worrying about what other people are going to say. Regardless of what it is that you’re doing, ask yourself “will this make me happy?” if the answer is “yes” or “in time, this will make me happy” then reach for it, because you will never be truly content if you are hiding what you feel for the convention of others. Keeping peace can only go so far until your inner peace is shattered, and once something is shattered, it is close to impossible to glue back together.

Sometimes you have to listen to Queen Elsa and “Let it Go”, and sometimes, you have to put people in a position to do the same.

I think that the original idea behind this post is that there are two types of selfish, and that one of them isn’t selfish at all, because in the end, if you’re happy, you therefore become capable of making others happy, and what’s selfish about that?

 

 

The great debate: Boyfriend Jeans

Boyfriend Jeans; Extremely hip or absolute disaster?

My exact question. We have seen many celebrities who have failed katie holmes bf jeans

and few who have triumphed the look,

 

rachel bilson bf jeans

making me question these jeans and want to study them to a great extent…

My first problem with these jeans is that no matter how slim you are, these jeans are completely unflattering. They accentuate the parts of the leg which a) many women are conscious about and b) shorten the leg from the ankle fold.

My other problem with these jeans is the distressed and over the top emphasis on the “boyfriend” aspect. The jeans are meant to be a man’s shape and style on a woman, not a statement that says “every man’s pair of jeans are ripped and maltreated”. I can honestly say that the majority of guys I see have jeans in better condition than many other women!

 

If you really are adventurous or enjoy making a trend statement (Like I do at times), then I believe that there are strict rules that you must apply to when wearing these jeans!

1) Make sure they fit! Although the aim of the jean is to look baggy and a little out of place, that does not mean they should hang off of you. Get a pair that fit your hips properly and do not go past your ankle.

2) What ever top you wear, ensure that it isn’t too long or loose. The length of the top is crucial, if your top is longer than the bottom of the zip, than you need a shorter top. The good thing about these jeans is that you can dress them up or down and suit them to the weather. You can wear a t-shirt and converse for a super casual spring day or you can wear ankle boots and a knitted jumper with them (still making sure that the jumper does not go past the zip)

3) Don’t forget that at the end of the day, you want to be somewhat classy. To me, you can pull off any style as long as there is a hint of class. Fashion and class are the perfect combination and to be able to add trend into your outfit, you need to get that balance of class and chic.

4) Suave and Chic are Boyfriend Jean’s middle name.  These jeans were designed to make a street style statement, and that they have! You need to make sure to keep your end of the bargain when wearing them. Tucked in shirts and belts are the epitome of the boyfriend jean way, so, tuck that top in and add a thin belt to sit in the belt loop.

5) Finally, add some feminine accessories. Colourful bags and simple jewellery, pointed toe heels and ankle boots go really well with the look, no matter the top you are wearing with the jeans. Keep everything simple and let the jeans and your accessories compliment themselves!

Follow these simple and effective rules and watch how the boyfriend jean can add some fun and simplicity into your life!

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