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2014: Nothing but a stepping stone to harsh realisation

“Yo, 2014, I’m really happy for you, I’ma let you finish, but 2013 was one of the best years of all time!”

2013: Probably my favourite year of my life. Why? I was 16, abundantly confident in myself and my abilities, I went overseas, I was incredibly happy, and I had my whole life plan sorted, everything, from where I would go to university, and what I would do there, to having any resource I needed at my fingertips. I had the confidence to forget about my problems and I had the motivation to succeed, and nothing could stop me. I had made incredible friends and had strengthened the relationships with the friends I already had. I also found my passion: blogging.

2014 arrives and i’m still blogging. I turned 17 on the 6th of January, and celebrated with the people who meant the world to me. A very modest gathering, but nonetheless extremely reassuring and fulfilling. I started my final school year with goals and motivation, and tackled every task at hand with ease. Then, for an unknown reason, “tackling school with ease” became difficult. My stress levels were going through the roof and I noticed that it was having an extreme toll on my body and my mind. The only thing that could clear my mind was blogging. In March, my mum had an operation that wasn’t very serious, but obviously crucial to her health. This was fine and everything went well, but thats when I experienced my first panic attack. It was ruthless and made me feel like I had no control. I then realised that I had a crazy, annoying, and irrational fear of hospitals that needed attention. This episode scared me, because thats when I realised that I could very easily lose control of my emotions; something that had never happened before. In April one of my closest friends (who I had made in 2013) came to Australia and it was so lovely to feel that 2013 feeling again, and it brought me back down to Earth, which was something I really needed.

Then, just as I thought I was getting the hang of the whole “controlling your emotions so that they don’t control you” thing, I received news that really, really affected me. My Dad was diagnosed with cancer. It was a very low-grade cancer and we really should have been thankful that it wasn’t as bad as other cases, but still, the C-word is a very confronting concept to deal with. Meanwhile at school, the work was getting tougher and the competition was well and truly on. Academically, I wasn’t doing too bad, I was doing very well in tough subjects (hi History Revolutions) and I had acted in, designed and sourced costumes for, as well as contribute to putting together a production of “The Venetian Twins” with my theatre class. It was a really rewarding and exciting thing to be apart of, and it distracted me for quite some time. Still though, at the back of my mind, I was always worried about what might come next; could things dramatically change? Was I prepared for that to happen? The answers to those questions are yes and no. Yes, circumstances can change in an instant, and no, in the event that they did, I was definitely not prepared, not emotionally and not mentally.

Ask any year 12 student and they can tell you how difficult they found the year to be. Not only are classes full on and demand every second of your attention, but recess and lunch breaks were also becoming hard work. I don’t think I have spoken to anyone who finished year 12 last year who didn’t encounter trouble within their friendship groups, and I was definitely absorbed into a ridiculous mess. Decisions that I wasn’t prepared for needed to be made, and fires were ignited with a small drop of fuel. A serious domino effect happened and one problem followed another, no matter how hard I had tried to contain it. For a while I endured the tiring task of “staying in the middle” and “keeping the peace” which was an absolute waste of time. After a while I learned that you cannot make everyone happy, no matter how hard you try. You can try to stay out of a problem but expectations are placed upon you and making decisions becomes inevitable. Although it may seem like it, I do not regret one decision that I made, and for every person that I lost, I regained a sense of myself.

One thing that I realised was that I would rather have three incredible people around me, people who inspire and motivate me, people who encourage me to be a better person; rather than one hundred people who I have to pretend with. Saying goodbye to someone who you once had a history with is difficult, but ceasing communication with them without closure is a lot harder. It’s not because I wanted to go out with a bang, or have my two cents, but I feel like there were things that needed to be said, which that person will never know. Not once have I stopped respecting them, however, i’ve noticed that this lack of closure has made them stop respecting me. One of the most annoying situations you can be put in is trying to have a group conversation, when one person just ignores you completely. Another annoying situation is hearing that the same person is willing to talk about you to your best friend. Even worse than that is hearing from multiple people that this one person has made you seem like the wicked witch of the west. Sometimes, trying to avoid trouble can backfire, and even though you try your hardest to build an environment for yourself where you can prosper, it’s not enough.

Then, after going through all that because you genuinely feel that you can no longer fake a friendship, people who you really care about begin to question your genuineness. The most ridiculous thing I experienced in 2014 was that I desperately tried to peacefully resolve things, but no one else did. I lost people that I didn’t want to lose. I have never been so disappointed in how things turned out. Regardless, I let everything slide because I just didn’t have the energy to fight for things anymore. My priorities had changed, and I preferred to focus my energy on my family, and didn’t bother justifying anything to anyone else. If there’s one thing about me that hasn’t ever changed in my entire life, it’s that my family is and always will be my number one priority, and anyone that can’t understand that doesn’t have a place in my life.

I told one person outside of my family that my Dad has cancer because I believed that no one has a right to place a justification on my motives. More than that, though, was that I didn’t want any sympathy from anyone, and the last thing I wanted was people to feel obligated to continue a friendship with me because they felt bad. I don’t regret not telling anyone, and I also don’t regret my actions, because now I see who is really there for me regardless. I didn’t know how easy it was for people to just forget about other people, but i’m glad that I know. I am, and will continue to be a very sentimental person; if I consider you to be one of my friends, my expectation is that we will be friends for life. I’m willing to go the distance, and i’m glad that I can see who else is too.

I’ve learned so much from 2014, and as difficult as it was, and as much as I hated it, I needed the kick in the ass. I needed to be shocked out of the dream that was 2013. I needed to learn that if you want to be happy, you need to make your own happiness, and drive your life. You can’t depend on anyone to make you content, it’s all up to you. You need to take initiative to surround yourself with the people who are going to help you bloom, and with people who you can in-turn support as well. I will not say that any of this was worth it, because I really hated going through all of it, but I do appreciate what i’ve learned.

I’ve devised my own list of commandments, and I want to share them with you. You, my lovely readers, have been with me through it all, supporting The Fashion Journals in every way that you can. My following has increased by an overwhelming amount in 2014, and I’m so grateful for each and every person who is subscribed, so thank you! 

1. Thou shall prioritise their own wellbeing, and make decisions that will make you a better person.

2. Make sure that thou won’t regret any decisions that thou makes. Ensure that it’s a life goal, that you will have the ability to reflect on your life and be proud of the decisions you made.

3. Find closure. Whether its with relationships, a bad test score, or a mistake you think you will never let down. Remember that you will never feel at peace with it until you talk it through, or at least establish an understanding between yourself and who ever else involved.

4. Appreciate everything and everyone you have around you. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and a large majority of that time it’s so that you can learn. Make the most of those fun summer nights, make the most of times with your friends, and cherish the quality time with your family, and be grateful that you’ve had a chance at life. Things can change in an instant, and the last thing you want is to look back and shudder at the thought of a missed opportunity.

5. The most cliché of them all: Learn from your past, and ensure that you are well equipped to handle things that may arise in your future.  I know, it’s a lot easier said than done, but why would you go down the same way twice if you realised the first time it was the wrong road to take?

So my list of commandments is half the size of original one, but I think this covers some things that stray from basic human rights and laws.

So, now it’s 2015, welcome to the new year, everyone!  I hope that you can begin the new year prepared for, and welcoming changes. I hope that you can learn from me and understand that life can be difficult, but once you hit what you think is rock bottom, there is no where to go but up! That’s my plan for the new year: to make 2015 better in every way than 2014 was! To find a strength in a weakness, and to persevere a negative to make it a positive!

Now, I have just turned 18 years old, I have finished school, and feel a lot wiser than I did in 2014 (and age has nothing to do with it!) I don’t have my whole life planned out, and I don’t know where I’m going to go to university, or what i’m going to study. At times I feel really overwhelmed and I can’t pin point why, but one thing is for sure, and that is that the same confidence I had in 2013 is still with me, and I know that one way or another, 2015 will be good to me. How? you may ask. I’m going to make it good, no matter what.

Happy 2015! Sorry to overwhelm you with a massive 1800+ worded article!!! Congratulations on getting through it!

xx DS

Top 10 stylish, thoughtful, last minute presents you can gift this Christmas!

If you say that you haven’t had a mental block about what to buy someone this Christmas, you’re probably lying. Whether it be a battle of the budget, a fussy giftee, or lack of inspiration, here is a list of 10 stylish last-minute ideas for those loved ones you might be stuck on!
Last minute Christmas gifts!

10. Mim Pouches $49.95 -$69.95

Nothing says “merry christmas” like a cute, versatile, little leather pouch that is perfect for the girl on-the-go who needs to quickly put her phone, keys, money and lipgloss in one perfectly sized pouch that comes in a range of different colours and styles!

See the whole range of Mimco Mim Pouches here

9. Personalised leather accessories from Mark and Graham

Yes, I did just say personalised leather. Check them out, you can customise a monogram that will be laser cut into the leather, perfect for the close friend or relative who loves custom, one of a kind accessories!

8. Glasshouse Christmas candles

Glasshouse candles are a little piece of candle luxury for anyone at any time of the year, but the limited edition Christmas candles are things that only come around during festive season, and only last so long, so take advantage of the beautiful scents “White Christmas” and “Night Before Christmas” before they’re gone!!!

(featured above and linked below)

7. Travel books and city guides of their dream destination

If there’s one thing I love, it’s giving a gift that you know the person will treasure for years to come. When it comes to travelling, people develop emotional attachments to the places that hold beautiful memories, such as the first new city they went to, the town that they grew up in, the building that they baffled them with it’s beauty, the culture that changed the way they saw the world and approached life… You can take them back on an emotional trip with collectable travel books, such as these ones from Taschen ($38.40 AUD) and Louis Vuitton ($65) (without actually leaving home or damaging the hip-pocket!)

Taschen books are featured in the edit above, but you can see the whole range here

You can also take a look at, and purchase the Louis Vuitton books here

6. Personalised metallic prints

Not only are they an awesome, incredibly inexpensive gift idea, but while you’re getting creative for you friends, you can make some for yourself too! All you need is heat reactant foil, a laminator, and some graphics ready to print with a toner printer.

First create/download the graphics, then print them with a printer that uses toner, not ink. Then place the foil on top of the printed sheet, and place another blank sheet of paper on top of that (think like a paper, foil, paper sandwich) then put it through the laminator. The heat from the laminator will make the foil adhere to the graphics. Peel the foil off e voilá!

You can purchase the foil from your local art supply store, and DIY the rest! It’s also a nice idea to frame them so they’re ready for use and so that they don’t get scratched!!!

5. Designer phone cases

Perfect for when you want to make a “I buy designer as presents” impression or for that person who absolutely loves the Kenzo tiger print, but you can’t afford to buy them the sweater! Here are some super cool ones from Kenzo, Michael Kors, Stella McCartney and Moschino here, herehere, and here!!!

4. Subscriptions to their favourite magazine

I would die (in a good way) if someone got me a subscription to Elle or Vogue… why? because that saves me from forking out precious $$$ every month plus it ensures that I never miss an issue for the whole year! It’s a gift that never stops giving!

3. Peter Alexander pyjamas

So we all are guilty of unintentionally (mostly completely intentionally) splurging at Peter Alexander for ourselves, but how nice would it be if you could share the PA love with someone else this Christmas?! You can go for the classic and jolly seasonal Christmas collection, or even get a little more personal with their new DisneyMarvel and Breakfast at Tiffany ranges! You can see the full range here

2. Assorted LUSH products

After the stress, preparation, hard work and dedication that goes into the festive season, why not make sure that your giftee can wind down while welcoming in the new year? LUSH have an incredible range of soaps, bath bombs and cosmetics, and what’s better is that they’ve conveniently packed and wrapped them just for you! I know I could spend quite some time in-store figuring out what to buy, so instead the pre-wrapped sets are perfect! You can see the full range here

1. Personalised candles from Candles by Alexa-Rose

Yes, I know, more personalised apparel, but seriously why wouldn’t anyone want a candle that fits perfectly into their space and not only soothes, but reminds them of the things that they love. You can send in photos, logos or choose from Mira, Bec, and Kate’s designs, and they can create a totally unique candle just for you! Now, I’m not being biased or anything, but seriously try and see what you think about the great work of these lovely ladies! I’ve collaborated with them and one lucky winner will receive two free candles which are pictured below! (Competition coming soon!!!)

So there you have it! Last minute gift ideas that can adapt to everyone’s budgets, needs and giftee’s!!!

Yes, I ‘created’ a word. No, I do not care if it doesn’t happen. Did Gretchen care that “fetch” didn’t happen??? Well, yes, but that doesn’t matter!

Merry Christmas and happy shopping!!!

xx DS

Kim Kardashian didn’t ‘Break the Internet’… that was you.

May I be the first to say “congratulations” to the people who are criticising Kim Kardashian?

Why? because you are giving her exactly what she wants. Ha ha.

Almost two weeks following the release of her photo shoot for Paper magazine and people are still talking about the “controversy” that an attempt at breaking the internet has caused…

News about a naked Kim Kardashian isn’t actually news and i’m not sure why everyone is so shocked…? Fair enough the photos weren’t exactly tasteful, but i’m sure if you were a model who usually gets paid (a lot more than some get paid in a year for one shoot) you probably wouldn’t shy away from the camera (or say “no thanks” to the fame that would follow) Plus, would you like it if someone scorned at a creative decision that you made? Have you ever been proud of something that you have created, and rather than receiving recognition, you just get judged for it? If its something that Kim wanted to do, and got the chance to do it, kudos to her! Kim didn’t get one cent for that shoot, and all she did was take up the opportunity to recreate an iconic shoot with the same photographer, Jean-Paul Goude.

I think what is really bothering me about this is that everyone was okay with Nicki Minaj’s Anaconda song and music video, which I felt was more uncomfortable to watch than these photos are to look at (especially that part with Drake at the end) Why? because now that ‘Anaconda‘ is out, you have a reason to twerk again.

Now, I think everyone knows how much I love ‘Game of Thrones‘, so you would also know that in no way am I slamming the nature of the show, but no one says anything about the graphic content in ‘Game of Thrones‘, which at times is ridiculously overrated, and finally, women all over the world worshipped Sex and the City and yet, one photo of one woman who is a lot wealthier than most is fuelling everyone, and i think it’s because of jealousy. Not many people have the confidence to do something like that and granted, it wasn’t something that simply had to be done, but most people forget that Kim K is a model, and she has made a career out of professional photography (regardless of the scandals and such…) She never asked to be a role model, nor did she ever promote herself as such. I don’t see the problem with these photos, especially when there are people out there doing far worse, and no one voices their opinions on those people, so why must you say something about Kim? She isn’t hurting anyone, nor is she showing the world something that they haven’t seen before.

Not everything has sexual connotations, and the fact that a woman’s body is immediately thought of in such a way is disgusting. The human body is a beautiful creation which sustains and creates life. The human body is one of the most natural organisms on the planet, so why are people, specifically women, forced to hide their body to suppress ‘temptations’? This is even a case of gender inequality. Ask yourselves “how can the sexes be equal when censorship of their bodies is not?” Why was it okay for Nick Jonas to grab his junk to prove that he’s mature and not a Disney kid in his most recent photo shoot, and why was it praised when Channing Tatum, Matthew McConauhey, and Alex Pettyfer portrayed male strippers in ‘Magic Mike‘, but Kim Kardashian is condemned for a photo shoot? Is it because she is a woman and there are certain expectations of her? Why does anyone give themselves the right to place expectations on someone they don’t even personally know? Could you imagine if the film ‘Magic Mike‘ was in fact ‘Magic Michelle‘? It would have received a ridiculous amount of criticism and the film classifications of the movie would have jumped from M to MA15+ really damn quickly. Why can teen magazines (that reach target audience’s of 10-18 years of age) publish photos of male heartthrobs sans shirt, but Kim Kardashian can’t do one magazine spread with little to no clothing? She isn’t posing provocatively like said male heartthrobs are, but is simply recreating an iconic photograph.

There is a campaign that I feel quite strong about, especially following the controversy behind Kim’s shoot, and it’s called “Free the Nipple” This campaign (if you haven’t heard about it before) is a movement aimed to empower women and promote equality, allowing and encouraging the natural occurrence of breast feeding in public (which is illegal in most states universally) and further, aims to balance the system of censorship which allows ridiculous amounts of graphic violence, while going to extreme lengths to cover a nipple.

If your trouble with not only the “Free the Nipple” campaign, but also Kim Kardashian’s Break the Internet shoot is the exposure of these things to young children, then take your phones and iPads off of your kids, enforce internet restrictions and read them a real, hard copy nursery rhyme book, and teach them something that is actually worth their while, like reading or counting, rather than giving them a game or internet access to shut them up so that you can go about your lives on social media, criticising people you don’t know publicly, while neglecting what’s really important. If you do your job right as a parent, exposure to children wouldn’t be a problem, because they wouldn’t have a mean of finding this sort of content anyway. If you can justify dressing your children up as the characters from ‘Breaking Bad‘ for halloween, complete with props resembling bongs and Wizz Fizz in packets that intend to look like narcotics, then you are then encouraging a behaviour far more atrocious than being proud of your body (which is what Kim Kardashian‘s intention was).

What’s worse: Encouraging drugs as if they are fun and harmless, or seeing a naked body? You decide.

Once again, another round of applause for everyone talking about this, and a standing ovation for those who believed that they have a right to criticise Kim Kardashian‘s parenting. In 20 years time North West will know that her mum helped her pay for her fifth mansion that she bought in cash and paid in full at the age of 12.

#freethenipple #breaktheinternet #getoverit 

As one door closes, another one opens

I can finally say that I graduated high school! 

What a journey it has been! There have been a lot of ups and i’ve had my fair share of downs, but I am more than ready to move on and start a new chapter of my life.

Looking back, I am quite proud of the person that i’ve grown into since 2009. Since then I learnt how to straighten my hair (thank every higher being), I no longer wear Dunlop Volleys (I re-purchased them one too many times) and I finally got around to throwing out my Noexss tracksuit pants that I bought when I was 11. Now aesthetically, these are all great achievements, but I’ve also managed to become the person that I want to be. Yes, this person is flawed, I know it, but I’ve been able to recognise my flaws and therefore work on them. I can’t guarantee that I won’t sleep in on Sundays or that I’m not going to pretend to text someone while i’m in an awkward situation, but I can try!

This year has been an insane emotional roller coaster, and I can honestly say that the bad has outweighed the good, but at times the good did succumb the sad realities of the bad. All of that aside, the pressures of VCE are extremely high, and at times I forget why and think “this is ridiculous”. The way I see it is that if you really are determined to have a certain career, you can do it what ever the circumstances, because if it’s a dream and something that you’re passionate about, you’ll have the motivation to achieve it, no matter what. Yes, exams are very important, and you have endured 13 years of school, so why give up when you only have a few weeks left? No one knows what will happen in 3 months time, so what happens if you stopped trying and in a few months decide to do something that requires an ATAR score, and then can’t do it because at the time you couldn’t be bothered? This is something that runs through my head every.single.day and i’m getting frustrated because i’ve become numb to all feelings about exams. The good thing about that is that i’m not stressed, the bad thing is that the importance of  these exams hasn’t hit me yet and my first exam is in 7 days from today…

On a different note, though; I graduated, and I couldn’t be more proud knowing that even through the toughest of times, I’ve made it. Regardless of the struggles, I persevered through and finished school. Another (small) benefit of graduating was that I needed to get a new outfit… It was a formal occasion, graduation gowns and everything. It was held in Melbourne’s Saint Patrick’s Cathedral, and the location itself was quite architecturally beautiful. There was a mass followed by a ceremony and although it was very long, at most times, it was engaging and felt very surreal – I still remember walking into my prep class for the first time!

As crazy as it sounds, I felt more stressed trying to find a last minute outfit for graduation than I do preparing for exams! I was quite set on getting a white skirt because I really wanted something to contrast the black compulsory gown. Here’s what I ended up with, wearing:

Top: Topshop

Skirt: Bardot

Shoes: Windsor Smith

Clutch: Equip

Lipstick: Chanel Rouge Allure Velvet, in 37 L’exubérante

Necklace: Tiffany & Co.

Watch: Vintage Seiko

Bracelet: Tiffany & Co.

Once The Musical!

His music needed one thing. Her.

Captivating from the moment you stepped into the beautiful Princess Theatre in Melbourne, Once the Musical takes you on a journey about love, inspiration, and the power of dreaming.

This musical had me speaking in an Irish accent in record time, while also tugging on a heart string which made me want to run home and sit at my piano, forgetting that I could only play a handful of songs and can barely read sheet music.

Speaking from a year 12 VCE Theatre Studies student perspective, there were many technical aspects of Once which I could not ignore, one being the highly noticeable use of Bertolt Brecht’s ‘Epic Theatre’ as the base theatrical style. Although the ‘fourth wall’ was hardly broken, an actor-audience relationship was established through the use of music and the ‘Verfremdungseffekt’ – also known as the ‘Alienation effect’ which reminds the audience that they’re watching a play, rather than become too immersed into the world of the play. This helped to create an actor-audience relationship as the ‘spectators’ were exposed to the complexities of the play, such as stagecraft elements which, instead of being changed during a black out, were changed in clear view. Although it did distance the audience, it also lured them in, as it built curiosity and evoked further thought about aspects which are not normally though about during a performance, such as “where did that come from?” “I really want to know what’s behind that door” “Did he really just change his pants off in front of a girl he just met?” and finally “why do I keep believing that those three chairs are a bed?” 

This effect was used a lot throughout the play, as the characters also served a practical purpose and were responsible for transforming the performance space from one place to another. Set in modern Dublin, the world of the play was created with quite a sensible set, which was easily manipulated to represent different places. However there were aspects of the set which were really detailed, and each detail became significant throughout the play. Many objects were used to represent other objects (for example: chairs were moved together to create a bed) which was not only practical, but demonstrated a complex level of presentation by director John Frost.

There were many other conventions of epic theatre which were prominent in Once (I made a whole list) which I can only touch on, but most importantly, this theatrical style was demonstrated through characterisation. The characters were significant symbols of Epic Theatre, especially noticeable through things like their names and titles; the two main characters are referred to as “guy” and “girl“, and there is also the “bank manager“, which literally depict who they are and their status in the play. 

Moving on from my painful analysis (sorry!) the music in this show was fantastic and was performed by an incredibly talented cast! The leads, Tom Parsons and Madeleine Jones not only had impeccable voices, but could play their respective instruments flawlessly. The rest of the cast was equally as breath taking. Each person demanded attention for their performances, even when in an ensemble, however one person who really stood out was Amy Lehpamer, a violinist and singer who played the role of Reza. She showed a lot of energy which was quite encapsulating from the moment I took my seat.

I really did enjoy Once, it exceeded any expectations which I had for this production! If you’re into stories with [somewhat] complex characters, meaningful messages, subtle comedy (which is expressed and received extremely well), open-to-interpretation-type musicals which have been faultlessly directed and impeccably performed, Once is definitely the show to see!

… I’m being serious, I’m Czech.

Furthermore, if you want to understand the above reference, you’ll need to see the show!

Once The Musical is showing at Melbourne’s Princess Theatre until December 31, 2014 and as cliche as it may sound, this musical really does only come around Once.

Get your tickets to Once the Musical here

Check out the official site of Once here

#loveonce

I’d also like to say a big thank you to Valissa from Nuffnang for giving me the opportunity to see this show! It has been a fantastic and motivating experience being Nuffnang blogger!

Wearing:

Zara navy knitted jumper

Mossman white leather skirt

H&M ankle boots

Versace Jeans Patent leather bag

Sportsgirl bracelet

Lovisa necklace

My space: Surrounding yourself with the things that inspire you most

The bedside table: Necessity central.

Everything you use daily is normally here. If you’re like me, my bedside table needs to be more practical than display-worthy, but I’ve tried to get the best of both worlds by making my essentials look somewhat presentable!

On my bedside table, I have:

  • Vintage beaded lamp (find similar here)
  • iPod dock and alarm clock (find similar here)
  • Jewellery stand from DIVA (find similar here)
  • ‘Italia’ snow globe that I picked up from a gift store just outside of the Vatican walls
  • Ring dish from Ceramiche Picadilly, which I got when I was travelling along the Amalfi Coast
  • Another ceramic dish from F.lli Calzuola in Deruta, Italy which was given to me from my brother, which holds a mini Glasshouse candle (Tahaa)
  • Crystals
  • My most used jewellery
  • Rachel Zoe’sStyle A to Zoe” and “Living in Style
  • Kardashian Konfidential by Kim, Khloe, and Kourtney Kardashian
  • Ultimate Fashionista: The Young Hollywood Style Guide by Alana Wulff
  • Parisian Chic” By Ines de la Fressange
  • Taschen 365 day-by-day Fashion Ads of the 20th Century
  • Silver Jewellery box from Ishka
  • Be Careful What You Wish For” and “Don’t Know What You’ve Got Till It’s Gone” by Gemma Crisp
  • Italian/English copy of “Romeo and Juliet” by William Shakespeare which I purchased at Juliet’s House (La casa di Giulietta) in Verona.
  • My treasured “Lucky Us (For being such good friends)” book, given to me by Miss Emily C. (The book is also printed with soy inks… how cool, right?!)
  • Willowtree Angel figurine
  • Every copy of Elle and Vogue that I have collected so far!

The ‘I have one room to cram all of my things in’ shelf/shelves: This is literally as the title stated.

I am still living at home with my family, and therefore, I have one room that needs to act as a bedroom, study, bathroom, and lounge room.  So every little trinket, perfume bottle, book, or basically anything that belongs to me needs to be stored here. This can make for a very cluttered space. Unlike some people, I cannot tolerate clutter… I can’t focus and I do not enjoy the time that I spend in that space, therefore, I need to be incredibly selective with everything that I have around; this makes things a lot harder, especially if you’re sentimental like I am! However, there is light at the end of the tunnel, and that light comes in the form of storage! I’ve used this 6 square bookshelf to store my favourite little ornaments, and have also converted it to a display, which comes in handy when I’m getting ready to go out. Here I also have a canvas made by my two best friend’s sister, Jessica C.(You can take a look at, and purchase her other work here), with Paris, London, and New York snow globes displayed in front of it, which I picked up from a cute little gift shop in Greensborough. The rest of the shelves either have photo frames or magazines!

The mini Oval Office: Where all official business is taken care of.

My desk is probably one of my favourite parts of my room. Everything that inspires me is staring right at me, motivating me to continue my homework, blog posts, uni and job applications!

Just a side note, I do not enjoy having dead flowers on my desk… I just don’t want to throw them out until I replace them! My little orchid plant has lasted ages and the flowers should bloom again soon! Plus, dead/dying roses are really morbidly metaphorical and honestly, I kind of find them beautiful. 

I also have swarmed my desk with candles. why? you may ask: because it creates a really relaxing mood when I’m cramming last minute homework!

Included on my desk is…:

These parts are just some parts of my room, I haven’t even shown you guys the other side!  I will be posting a “de-clutter” post soon where I will show a before and after shot of my bookshelf and the other half of my room that isn’t featured here!

All of these things that make up my room, pretty much sum me up too. I’m just a fashion loving, family orientated, friend treasuring person who really likes magazines and owns way too many books!

Modern Tranquility

Modern Tranquility

Just a quick take on a splash of tranquility that can be easily incorporated into your home!

I find that neutral tones with hues of blue make for a calming, elegant space!

Not only that, surrounding yourself with simple reminders of the things that you love make for an instant happy mood!

In this edit in particular, the Vogue artwork, and the notebook are my small reminders of fashion and writing, my two favourite hobbies!

Give it a try and let me know how you go! #thefashionjournals on Instagram!

Tom Dixon cord light
hivemodern.com

H M grey bedding
$57 – hm.com

Blanket
countryroad.com.au

Word wall art
$535 – mattblatt.com.au

Ethan Allen flower pot
ethanallen.com

NEOM Organics scented candle
$26 – selfridges.com

Stone bowl
lampsplus.com

Urban furniture
smartfurniture.com

Here are some words of wisdom…

Right now, i’m at a stage where things are coming to an end and it’s expected that I sort out my life, like, right now.

Like most would know and understand, that is a concept that is most definitely easier said than done. I’m finding myself at the age of 17 being forced to make massive decisions which should determine the next 100 years of my life (give or take…) Of course, i’m not alone on this road, there is a whole cohort of year 12 students across Australia (and across the world) who are overly stressed about their pathways and feel like every move they make now is crucial to their future. This is definitely true, yes, performing well on your VCE exams are certainly important, there is absolutely no doubt about it, and striving for that 99.99 ATAR is a great dream to have, congratulations on the amount of ambition that you have, regardless of whether it’s realistic or not.

During these times, it’s important to remember what your ambitions are, and how this short term goal is going to effect your future in the long term. I personally am a dreamer, I like to think that everything is possible, because, why shouldn’t I, and why can’t you?

We are so pressured into believing that the only way to succeed is from being the best right from the beginning, but what people don’t realise is that most of the time, the CEO was the person who was doing coffee runs 15 years ago, and modestly made a name for themselves.

My aim for writing this is to motivate. No matter what circumstances you may be in, you can always achieve your goals, and whether it takes 6 months or a whole lifetime, if you keep persevering and keep optimistic, you will achieve, and the only thing slowing you down right now is your mentality, and although your mentality is something that cannot be easily changed, it can be persuaded.

Realistically, there is no one to blame but yourself for not achieving your goals, and it’s up to you, and you only, to move your butt and strive for them, keeping in mind the amazing, accomplished feeling you will get once you reach the finish line.

In the event that you do fail at the task at hand, whose to say that it wasn’t for the best? If you fail miserably trying, then that’s fantastic, because once you get it (it being a job, career, interview, anything) then that means that you already know what not to do. Don’t think of it as a failure, think of it as a learning process, think of it as being on a roller coaster that only goes up (Thank you Augustus Waters)

One thing you should remember though, is that your failures don’t define you, but they do shape you. Naturally, we learn from our mistakes, and that’s a beautiful thing! Once you learn not to touch the flame, you have no good reason to do it again, therefore, once you give it another go, you will only get better.

The way I see it is that you have one shot at life, and of course, life has many opportunities, so in that case don’t just reach for something thats in arms length, reach for the stars. You may have an incredible amount of things that are in your way, but those things aren’t physically or mentally stopping you, they’re just slowing you down, like a speed hump in the road.

Your journey is just one big metaphorical road, with many speed humps, side streets and pot holes, but if you’ve got a steady vehicle, it will be a smooth course.

I don’t know about you, but when i’m of a retirement age, i’d prefer to be deciding on which Céline handbag I will wear to match the colour of my brand new Ferrari (okay, maybe not a ferrari… I’ll settle for a Maserati… ;)) rather than sit on a couch regretting my past and not doing anything about my future. Rather than looking back, regretting that you didn’t take opportunities while they were there, create your own. Don’t rely on other people to hand things to you, if you want it, you have to work for it, and if it’s something you want bad enough, nothing and no one can or will get in your way.

My Dad always told me that “there is no one who is better than you, but there is also no one who is beneath you” which, when broken down, can be interpreted in many ways. The way I like to look at it is like this: You can compare yourself to people, and beat yourself up for not being like them, but you can’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle; But above all that, it’s also a quote of modesty. There literally is no one who is better than you are, but in turn, you are also no better than anyone else. Everyone is capable of great things, and not only is it a matter of time until they un-tap their potential, but it’s also a matter of them achieving the same as you, but in a different way. Rather than feeling threatened, feel encouraged, feel empowered, because if the person who you look up to can do it, then so can you.

Now, i’d like to apologise for speaking in metaphor, analogy, and simile a good 85% of the time, but then again, this would be pretty boring without out it so you’re welcome (that’s sarcasm, which is a form of irony. Hi language techniques) 

At the end of the day, life is one big chance, and your decision to get up every morning, is you taking that chance every day, and opening yourself to the amazing things that this life has to offer.

The Fashion Journals at Melbourne Spring Fashion Week!

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September 3rd will be the night!

I will be seeing amazing designers and brands like Manning Cartel, LIFEwithBIRD, Khalo, Carly Hunter, Alice Mccall, Lui Hon, YB J’AMIE, Neo Dia, and finally, Willow.

Expect a lot of photos and a lot of excitement, because this will undoubtedly be the highlight of my life in the next few incredibly busy weeks!!!

A quick side note: I know my feed is becoming slower day by day, but my final year of VCE is demanding my full attention, but I will always try to post where possible!

Baby girl’s nursery inspo

Baby girl's nursery inspo

Here is a quick “I’m meant to be studying but I haven’t posted in a while” post!

I made this edit a few weeks ago but never got around to sharing it, I think it’s the perfect balance of cute, cozy, practical and sophisticated, with calming colours and a relaxing vibe!

Playing around with wallpaper can be fun, as can mixing two different types of wallpaper to create a very unique and personal room!

I envision this room to be perfect for a little girl, who definitely has room to grow, as the main features of the room don’t define an age and are easily adjustable to a growing and changing person! The pendant is very minimalistic, as it is artistic and just beautiful in general, while the illustrations are cute decorations and are very suitable for a child!

Links to all of the pieces in the edit are below!

Moooi lighting
hivemodern.com

H M cotton curtain
$25 – hm.com

White home decor
$140 – fantasticfurniture.com.au

Wall art
etsy.com

Thibaut yellow home decor
$71 – fabricsandpapers.com

Wall art
society6.com

Vinyl home decor
lowes.com

LSA International handmade home decor
$24 – oliverbonas.com

White home decor
blisshomeanddesign.com

Prinz frame
target.com

Royal Doulton ivory figurine
$84 – royaldoulton.co.uk

White armchair
$670 – dwell.co.uk

Replica furniture
$645 – mattblatt.com.au

Kindness is the new black

Firstly, I’d like to say that this post has absolutely nothing to do with fashion, and once I started writing, I took this post to a whole other place that I wasn’t expecting, but I think it’s an important thought to share. Excuse me for what I presume will be a very blunt and straight forward rant, because I’ve been awake for far too long, and frankly, I’ve had enough.

As humans, we are capable of a range of emotions and opinions, and most of the time, we have the freedom to express our feelings, which is amazing, considering that at certain times in history, and in certain countries today, people would die as a punishment for having an opinion. Opinions motivate people to achieve great things, think along the lines of governments passing gay marriage bills, and major campaigns that influence a population (Kony 2012, political campaigns, right down to social partitions). Even something like a blog (hi) can influence your opinion on a topic, or encourage you to share your own view. All of these opportunities are great, and we are lucky that we have so many different ways of communicating the things we are passionate about, however, sometimes we can tend to take things out of hand, and draw our opinions to a public platform and shine them in a negative light.

Everyone is capable of of being unkind, and sometimes, we are without even noticing. I do it, and have become notorious for my excellence in ranting about people and the illogical things that they do. I know that I do it, and after I do, I regret saying some of the things that I said. Why? Mostly because I would never say those things to the actual person that I was talking about, which brings me to the conclusion that if you wouldn’t tell the person that you think their opinions, actions, or what ever it is about them that bothers you is stupid, then you shouldn’t say it at all.

The majority of us have always been taught “Treat others how you would want to be treated”  and things like “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all”, and it hasn’t been until recently that i’ve realised that this glorification of bitchy attitudes that we’ve been exposed to through movies, television and social media (especially tumblr) isn’t the type of attributes that we should be priding ourselves with.

I want to meet the person who decided to glorify the sarcastic nature, who made it ‘cool’ to be rude. I want to meet that person and ask them what they gained from having a personality that borderlines manipulative and contemptuous. I would hate to think that the people that I surround myself with will happily start talking about me behind my back, or further, have the cruel confidence to attempt to tear me down in front of other people, in turn causing self esteem issues and humiliation.

We looked up to films like ‘Mean Girls’ and were even shown the film in schools, and we tried to promote anti-bullying, but all it did was emphasise that the mean girls are the prettiest and the most popular in the world of the film, and then, we as an audience begin to idolise the lifestyle of the characters. Yes, we ridicule some of their traits, and we thank every higher being that our mothers are not like Regina George’s, but when we are shown the average students, the ones who think that “Regina George is flawless”, they are depicted as unattractive people, with unflattering makeup and costumes, who we automatically assume are at the bottom of the social pyramid, and this was a very conscious and stereotypical directorial decision which degrades people, and gives the audience the impression that the ones who will prosper and be idolised are the characters with horrible and decieving personalities. It is literally a movie about mean people battling other mean people in a quest to humiliate each other. Don’t get me wrong, I loved watching ‘Mean Girls’ and quoting the film, and it does tackle the issue of bullying, social status and friendship, but only if you look into it deep enough.  So many people emulate that movie in the wrong way, they want to be the mean girls, but why?

The other night I was scrolling through my twitter feed and came across a tweet that may not seem that big of a deal, but it offended me. It said something along the lines of “Do you ever look at the amount of pimples someone has and then cringe?” I understand that this is something that would legitimately run through some people’s minds, and I can guarantee you that there will be a time when you come across someone with a pimple that distracts you from what they’re saying, and coming from someone who does struggle with skin problems and sensitive skin, I notice other people’s acne probably more than others would, mostly because I am so conscious about my own skin; but I would never make those thoughts public knowledge.

There is a strong difference between thinking something about a person’s physical attributes, and actually publicising your thoughts for everyone else to see. I can guarantee that everyone is self conscious about something, but it’s just common courtesy to ignore the flaw in their appearance and, if you must judge, judge a person by their personality.

Yes, as humans we are naturally judgemental, there is no denying it, I can be very judgemental, and I cannot argue otherwise. It is a sub conscious mechanism that we use to distinguish whether we like someone or not, or to protect ourselves from harm. Really though, why would you purposely be so mean to people? Is it because you need to point our other people’s flaws in an attempt to distract others from yours, or do you think that intimidating people will make you seem cool?

Another time, I was at a school retreat, and over heard a group of girls talking about another girl who was meant to be one of their best friends. The vivid vulgarity of their words shocked me, I couldn’t understand how they could loudly speak of someone in such a discriminating way. What was worse is that out of the eight of them, not one of those people defended their friend, and instead, joined in to the conversation, adding fuel to the flame. I know that looking back, I can’t talk to any of those girls without thinking “imagine what they’re going to say about me when I walk away”, and worse than that, regardless of how nice either one of them may seem, I can’t bring myself to trust them.

We were taught kindness, we were taught compassion, and we were taught manners. We were given a voice to speak up about the injustices in the world, and we were given a voice to share our opinions, to contribute to the life and the environment that we build for ourselves, yet here we are, polluting this environment with damaging words. We are inevitably isolating ourselves from the positives in people because we drown ourselves in their flaws. We are limiting the capabilities of incredible people because other superficial people decide that they aren’t “hot enough” to be apart of something.

When did we come to this, and why do we give those who judge and degrade people, the power to decide what others are capable of?

My original concept was to base this article around this comment that I saw on a photo of Kim Kardashian and North West, but I got a little carried away… Sorry!

photo

*The intention of this article isn’t to offend. As for the tweet mentioned, my intention is not to confront, but to emphasise my point.* 

The kitchen is the heart of the home

The kitchen is where you would probably be spending the most time. The kitchen reveals everything: Your patience (when you just can’t get that recipe right), your creative side, your passionate nature and also is one of the first places where others will be able to tell if you’re a morning person or not…

A lot can happen in a kitchen, its one of those spaces in the home that is so inviting, and yet, so secretive…

“Where is the family recipe book?”

“What’s in that cupboard?”

“How did she make this taste so good?!”

“I’m not supposed to say anything, but guess what happened?!”

They say that the quickest way to the heart is through the stomach, so I guess that’s why the kitchen acts as the heart of a home!

 

The Dining Room: Comfort, Style, and Colour

Dining room inspo!!!

There is nothing I love more than a practical and stylish home!

I think people sometimes forget that a house is not a home until you are comfortable in it, and many people make their homes seem like a cold and lifeless display, which may look beautiful in photos, but is in no way sensible or cozy.

These photos show some very sophisticated, elegant, and tidy dining rooms, but it’s understandable that not every one has a house that can achieve this look. You may have a small space, bare walls, and simple furniture, and there is nothing wrong with that! With a little imagination, you can make anything work! Once again, interior design is all about practicality and making the practical look good, and there are many ways in which you can re-design your dining space!

1. Consider your space: How large is the area you wish to dedicate to dining? Is it a corner  just outside of the kitchen? A space near a window? or do you have a separate room solely for dining?

2. Your Walls: Is your space neutral? Do you want to paint? Are you happy with the colour?

3. How many people live in your house? Do you have room for guests?

The answers to these questions will enable you to begin to have a clearer image of what it is that you want to, and what you are able to achieve in your dining space, and will allow you to decide on the style and the pieces which you can use in the space.

Keep in mind, when it comes to dining areas, less is more and comfort and atmosphere is a priority!

Take a look the pieces used in this edit here: Dining room inspo!!! by thefashionjournals featuring a pastel storage box

Round table lamp
lampsplus.com

Tube light
ikea.com

AERIN black floor lamp
gracioushome.com

Gray wool rug
$190 – nest.co.uk

Marimekko serving tray
$94 – connox.com

Holmegaard red fruit bowl
$65 – connox.com

Canvas serving pitcher
canvashomestore.com

Royal Doulton white wine glasses
$32 – royaldoulton.co.uk

Menu
$110 – connox.com

Wall art
$5,870 – fentonandfenton.com.au

Pastel storage box
$51 – oliverbonas.com

Wood table chair
$1,100 – mattblatt.com.au

Interior design; your chance to combine style and comfort

I must say, I’ve always loved interior design, but I didn’t think i’d bring home decor to The Fashion Journals!
Can I even call this blog The Fashion Journals if it’s not just fashion anymore?!
Regardless, here are my absolute favourite pieces that i’ve sourced from my favourite local stores which have captured my attention and stolen my heart. I’m not even joking, i’m obsessed!
So, here is a look into the living room and bedroom of my future home or apartment! I’m going for the livable, comfortable, stylish, modern art gallery type of look, which is both colourful and minimalistic, while still incredibly practical, making a house really feel like a home!

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Stay tuned to discover my go-to stores for fashion and interior design in Melbourne (and Australia) Post coming soon!

Preaching a sense of selfishness: Making your lifestyle, worthwhile

A lot of thought has gone into writing this, I contemplated finishing the piece and not posting it, but I also contemplated that as much relief as I felt while writing it, may be just the same amount of relief that you might get from reading it. I’m taking this blog to a new place, starting with lifestyle, and this is something that has become very important to me, and as fashion, beauty and writing is a big part of my life, so are these concerns and so are the results of these concerns… Lets call them “revelations”.

Lately I don’t even know where to begin when it comes to, well, pretty much anything. I’m constantly busy, stressed and focusing all of my attention of things that aren’t particularly my cup of tea. I think it’s come to that time of the year when everything becomes serious (or people are finally realising that the first four months of the year could’ve been passed in a more productive way…) Regardless, everywhere I go, people are stressed.

Granted I am a year 12 student so the majority if people that I speak to are already stressing for exams, worrying about why and where they missed out on that 1% on their tests, or if you’re in my case your theatre production should be ready to perform this week and you feel completely unorganised, and, finally, our social lives are kind of hanging on by a thread.

Everyone becomes sensitive and snappy, friendships fall apart and new ones form, and sometimes you have to deal with things that are larger than you think you can cope with. If you’re like me, you begin to prioritise and you realise that this is the time in your life when sometimes you have to put yourself, your needs, and your aspirations first. So, that’s where some new philosophies, different outlooks and a welcoming mindset come in.

Sometimes, we forget what’s really important, and it takes something serious and emotionally hard to face for you to realise what it is that you’re missing. Sometimes that push we need is a push off of the edge, because once you reach the bottom, there’s no other way to go except up.

I know, it’s totally cliche, but it’s so true. In a time where you feel lost, you begin to imagine what it is that will help you to find yourself; you truly understand what’s missing, and what steps need to be taken to replace that empty feeling.

 I’m not going to take a materialistic approach and turn this around into a post about how “money can make you happy” or about how “I really needed that bag in my life” because what i’ve realised is that when you have everything emotionally, you long for material things, because we can’t help but want more. Once you experience something that may not leave you in the best place, our desire for everything else becomes overwhelming, and some manage to find happiness in inanimate objects. Those lifeless concepts that we think bring us happiness work until you need advice and have nothing to turn to except a Celiné bag and five pairs of Louboutins.

As a self-confessed materialistic person, you can quote me on the words “money doesn’t buy happiness, but i’d rather cry in my Ferrari” but here I am encouraging selfishness of a certain sort. The sort of putting your emotional needs first, and making yourself happy by what ever means possible. If that means cutting ties with people who make you unhappy, then do it. If that means sacrificing duties imposed by others so that you have the time to do something for yourself, then just do it. If it means selflessly donating your time to charity and walking away knowing that you’ve done something good, go for it. Stop worrying about what other people are going to say. Regardless of what it is that you’re doing, ask yourself “will this make me happy?” if the answer is “yes” or “in time, this will make me happy” then reach for it, because you will never be truly content if you are hiding what you feel for the convention of others. Keeping peace can only go so far until your inner peace is shattered, and once something is shattered, it is close to impossible to glue back together.

Sometimes you have to listen to Queen Elsa and “Let it Go”, and sometimes, you have to put people in a position to do the same.

I think that the original idea behind this post is that there are two types of selfish, and that one of them isn’t selfish at all, because in the end, if you’re happy, you therefore become capable of making others happy, and what’s selfish about that?