Right now, i’m at a stage where things are coming to an end and it’s expected that I sort out my life, like, right now.
Like most would know and understand, that is a concept that is most definitely easier said than done. I’m finding myself at the age of 17 being forced to make massive decisions which should determine the next 100 years of my life (give or take…) Of course, i’m not alone on this road, there is a whole cohort of year 12 students across Australia (and across the world) who are overly stressed about their pathways and feel like every move they make now is crucial to their future. This is definitely true, yes, performing well on your VCE exams are certainly important, there is absolutely no doubt about it, and striving for that 99.99 ATAR is a great dream to have, congratulations on the amount of ambition that you have, regardless of whether it’s realistic or not.
During these times, it’s important to remember what your ambitions are, and how this short term goal is going to effect your future in the long term. I personally am a dreamer, I like to think that everything is possible, because, why shouldn’t I, and why can’t you?
We are so pressured into believing that the only way to succeed is from being the best right from the beginning, but what people don’t realise is that most of the time, the CEO was the person who was doing coffee runs 15 years ago, and modestly made a name for themselves.
My aim for writing this is to motivate. No matter what circumstances you may be in, you can always achieve your goals, and whether it takes 6 months or a whole lifetime, if you keep persevering and keep optimistic, you will achieve, and the only thing slowing you down right now is your mentality, and although your mentality is something that cannot be easily changed, it can be persuaded.
Realistically, there is no one to blame but yourself for not achieving your goals, and it’s up to you, and you only, to move your butt and strive for them, keeping in mind the amazing, accomplished feeling you will get once you reach the finish line.
In the event that you do fail at the task at hand, whose to say that it wasn’t for the best? If you fail miserably trying, then that’s fantastic, because once you get it (it being a job, career, interview, anything) then that means that you already know what not to do. Don’t think of it as a failure, think of it as a learning process, think of it as being on a roller coaster that only goes up (Thank you Augustus Waters)
One thing you should remember though, is that your failures don’t define you, but they do shape you. Naturally, we learn from our mistakes, and that’s a beautiful thing! Once you learn not to touch the flame, you have no good reason to do it again, therefore, once you give it another go, you will only get better.
The way I see it is that you have one shot at life, and of course, life has many opportunities, so in that case don’t just reach for something thats in arms length, reach for the stars. You may have an incredible amount of things that are in your way, but those things aren’t physically or mentally stopping you, they’re just slowing you down, like a speed hump in the road.
Your journey is just one big metaphorical road, with many speed humps, side streets and pot holes, but if you’ve got a steady vehicle, it will be a smooth course.
I don’t know about you, but when i’m of a retirement age, i’d prefer to be deciding on which Céline handbag I will wear to match the colour of my brand new Ferrari (okay, maybe not a ferrari… I’ll settle for a Maserati… ;)) rather than sit on a couch regretting my past and not doing anything about my future. Rather than looking back, regretting that you didn’t take opportunities while they were there, create your own. Don’t rely on other people to hand things to you, if you want it, you have to work for it, and if it’s something you want bad enough, nothing and no one can or will get in your way.
My Dad always told me that “there is no one who is better than you, but there is also no one who is beneath you” which, when broken down, can be interpreted in many ways. The way I like to look at it is like this: You can compare yourself to people, and beat yourself up for not being like them, but you can’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle; But above all that, it’s also a quote of modesty. There literally is no one who is better than you are, but in turn, you are also no better than anyone else. Everyone is capable of great things, and not only is it a matter of time until they un-tap their potential, but it’s also a matter of them achieving the same as you, but in a different way. Rather than feeling threatened, feel encouraged, feel empowered, because if the person who you look up to can do it, then so can you.
Now, i’d like to apologise for speaking in metaphor, analogy, and simile a good 85% of the time, but then again, this would be pretty boring without out it so you’re welcome (that’s sarcasm, which is a form of irony. Hi language techniques)
At the end of the day, life is one big chance, and your decision to get up every morning, is you taking that chance every day, and opening yourself to the amazing things that this life has to offer.